INCEST

  MARRIAGE OF INCEST

            Inbreeding is prohibited by sexual contact because of family ties. Sexual contact can occur between father and daughter, mothers with sons, between brothers and sisters, men with men (homosexual), certain cousin, stepfather and daughter, and many more are forbidden by the religion and culture. For example where a fellow cousin's father were both brothers, in some cultures this is not problematic, but in other cultures it is forbidden. However, if this remains the case then there has been incest.
            Incestuous sexual contact can be prohibited in culture, may also be prohibited in health. Prohibition in culture caused by several things that happens depends on the culture of each, which is sometimes difficult to understand why this could occur. However, incest can happen because of turmoil in the relationship between one another in a family. For example, the brothers who had long been separated, which then met and married but do not know if they are actually brothers.
            Sexual contact between a stepfather and stepson actually does not cause medical problems, but can cause family problems. Sexual contact between cousins ​​can cause certain medical problems. Some sexual contact or marriage between cousins ​​was allowed because of the particular culture used to live in an area where they are difficult to penetrate the border area to get married with another family away from the place. To give the opportunity of marriage to members area then allowed to marry for certain cousins.
            Genetically, 25% of children will experience the result of incest congenital abnormalities. Most likely once this is found in the common ancestor of man, that it is culturally forbidden. Incest can occur because of a deliberate intent to do though have been known to violate the law. For example, sexual contact between the father and his stepson. Everyone knows that the behavior is strictly forbidden but done well.

TYPE - TYPE OF INBREEDING

Incest is divided into 2 (two) types, namely:
1. Incest which is voluntary (without coercion)
Sexual relations that do occur because of elements as they liked.
2. Incest coercive
Intercourse as an element of compulsion, for example in girls threatened with death by his father for refusing to serve the sexual appetite. Incest communities like this in more familiar with the rape of incest.

CAUSES OF INBREEDING
            There are several causes or triggers of incest. The root cause is none other and is due to the influence of structural aspects, namely the situation in an increasingly complex society. The complexity of the situation led to powerlessness on individual self. Especially when he was a man (in fact is likely to be considered and consider themselves more powerful) will be very shocked, and cause mental-psychological imbalance. In such helplessness, in the absence of faith as a force for internal / spiritual, someone will be governed by primitive urges, the sexual urges or aggressiveness. The structural factors include:

(1) Cultural Conflicts.
            Social change happens so quickly in line with technological developments. Communication tools such as radio, television, VCD, HP, newspapers, and magazines have been entered into all corners of Indonesia. Along with it goes also new cultures which actually does not fit with the culture and local norms. People easily get a sex crime news through television shows and written in newspapers and magazines. Also information and experience of pornography and various types of media. As a result, television, VCD, and news in newspapers or magazines that often feature incestuous sexual activity and acts of violence, can be a model for those who can not control his passion.

(2) Poverty.
             Although incest can occur in all layers of the economy, in particular the condition of poverty is a chain of circumstances which raises potential incest. Many poor families have only one house plot. Existing homes are one or two rooms with multi functions. Inevitably, sexual activity had to be done where it can be watched by other family members. Bed child and parents are often no limits anymore. Father who could not restrain his passion easily aroused to see her daughter sleep. Such a situation allows for the occurrence of incest when the opportunity arises.

(3) Unemployment.
            Crisis conditions also resulted in a lot of layoffs that resulted in many people who are unemployed. In a suit seeking employment situation, while the family needed to eat, not infrequently a husband and wife worked hard to work sober. With the condition is rarely at home wife (especially if the TKW), makes the husband alone. Looking for entertainment outside the home need not cost anything. Not rule out the possibility of children who are in conditions to grow into his father's punching bag lust.

In addition to the above factors, Lustig (Sawitri Supardi: 2005) suggests other factors are:
(1) squeezed state, where girls even become the main female figure who take care of families and households as a surrogate mother.
(2) Sexual difficulties in the elderly, the father is not able to overcome his sexual urge.
(3) The inability of fathers to seek sexual partners outside the home because kehutuhan to maintain the façade patriachat its stability properties.
(4) The fear of family breakdown which allows multiple family members to prefer the structure of the disintegration rather than break at all.
(5) Sanctions against veiled women who did not participate in the sexual demands of the role of wife.
(6) Supervision and less educated parents because of busy people working for a living can loosen controls by parental incest may occur.
(7) normal teenager at the time of their adolescent sexual urges are so high because of the influence of impressions that evoke instinctive lust also played a role in this regard.


INCEST FAMILY MEMBERS DOING REASON

(1) father as a perpetrator.
            Possible actors experience less enjoyable childhood, family background is less harmonious, it may even be the perpetrator is the victim of sexual abuse in childhood. Perpetrators tend to have a personality that is not mature, passive, and tend to depend on others. He is less able to control himself / his desire, less able to think realistically, tend to be passive-aggressive in expressing his emotions, lack of confidence. In addition, the possibility of the perpetrator is a user of alcohol or other illicit drugs.

(2) Mother as perpetrator.
             Mothers who had molested tend to have low levels of intelligence and emotional disorders. Mothers who committed incest against her son likely driven by the desire of the figures 'other man' in his life, because of the presence of physical and emotional husband felt less so that she hopes her son can fulfill the desires that are not obtained from her husband. These cases are rare, mainly because women tend to have instinctively nurturing nature and 'protect' children.

(3) brothers as agents.
 Elder sexual abuse victims who do usually mimic the behavior of their parents or have a desire to dominate / punish his brother. In addition, sexual abuse may also be done by the adoptive parents / stepparents, or others who live with the victim, such as foster brother.

AS A RESULT OF INBREEDING
            There are several consequences of this incestuous behavior, especially those that occur because of coercion. Among them are:

(1) psikologis.Gangguan psychological disorders due to sexual abuse or trauma and post-sexual abuse, among others: not able to trust others, fear or worry in intercourse, depression, suicidal and self-destructive behavior of others, self esteem low, feeling guilty, angry, alone and do not want to socialize with other people, and eat irregularly.
(2) Medically shown that children with the result of an incestuous relationship has great potential to experience either physical or mental kecatatan.
(3) Another result is quite disturbing is that they often blame the victim and get a stigma (the label) is bad. In fact, the events they experienced was not because of his will. They are victims of sexual violence. People who should be blamed are the perpetrators of sexual crimes.
(4) Various studies have shown, to adults, children victims of sexual violence such as incest would normally have self-esteem (self-esteem) is low, depression, harbored feelings of guilt, difficulty trusting others, lonely, hard to keep building relationships with people other, and have no interest in sex.
(5) Other studies even suggest that these children end up as adults also lapse into the use of alcohol and drugs, prostitution, and has a propensity to commit sexual violence to children.

EFFORTS TO PREVENT INBREEDING

            To avoid the occurrence of incest is good with atapun not accompanied by sexual violence, should be taken as follows:

(1) Strengthen the faith with the teachings of true religion. Not only prioritize the ritual, but especially the values ​​that are taught so that it becomes an integral part of yourself. This can be achieved by appreciation of God as a person, so the relationship with God is "intimate", not just an absurd utopia.
(2) Strengthen the sense of empathy, so it is more sensitive to the suffering of others, while not the heart to make others as victims.
(3) Charge time with positive creative activity.
(4) Keep yourself and your family from things that can arouse lust.
(5) Provide oversight and guidance to family members, so it can be controlled.
(6) Provide sex education early on, according to the age of the child

ASFIKSI

Asfiksi is objec where newborn babies can not breathe spontaneously and regularly. Infants with a history of fetal distress before birth, will generally experience asfiksi at birth.

CAUSE ASFIKSI
1. Mother factor
     a. Preeclampsia and eclampsia
     b. Abnormal bleeding (placenta previa or placenta solusio)
     c. Parturition or parturition long jams
     d. Severe infections (malaria, syphilis, tuberculosis, HIV)
     e. More than 42 weeks gestation

2. Cord factor
     a. coil cord
     b. short cord
     c. umbilical cord knot
     d. umbilical cord prolapse

3. of factors baby
     a. premature infants (less than 37 weeks)
     b. labor with the action (breech, twins, shoulder dystocia, vacuum extraction, forceps extraction)
     c. congenital abnormalities (congenital)
     d. amniotic fluid mixed with meconium (greenish color)

SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS ASFIKSI
1. Not breathing or gasping breath - breath
2. Bluish skin color
3. convulsions
4. impairment of consciousness

Labor Pain (hypnotherapy)

understanding of hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy is a therapeutic technique of mind using hypnosis. While hypnosis can be defined as the science to give suggestions or commands to the subconscious mind. People who are expert in using hypnosis to therapy called "hypnotherapist".
Hypnotic birthing is a normal mental preparation before delivery. You will learn how to prepare patients (pregnant women) so she can give birth normally without pain. Hypnotic birthing womb can be started from the age of 5 months upwards. Can be done privately with a patient or together with a lot of pregnant women at once. Hypnotic birthing usually takes only two meetings, one meeting one hour. After that, the patient you are ready to give birth without pain.


According to the laws of physiology, all natural body function that should be achieved without risk or pain. Childbirth is a natural body function. For women who are healthy and normal baby, should be able to give birth naturally without pain. However, because most women who gave birth to feel scared, anxious and tense, then the pain does not mean it should be very heavy.
If a woman can be relaxed and calm during childbirth, she could give birth not only smoothly, he also did not feel anything. Hypnosis to help pregnant women through childbirth with anesthesia bring calm and mentally. Birth of normal and without pain is not only useful for the mother. Babies who are born also gain a huge advantage because he can be born without a "violent". In other words, there was no trauma in the birth process. A study proves that infants are born without trauma have a higher IQ, better health, higher self-confidence, and more to successful life.
Women in rural China and some parts of India can give birth to very easy and absolutely painless. Pregnant women in the area who are working in the fields, if the bears but need shelter under a tree, holding her shawl, rest a little, and gave birth to him so easily without assistance. Babies come out not because of a natural impulse, but because the contractions are not painful. After delivery, they are quite a short break, about 5 to 10 minutes. After that they can directly perform activities as usual. They do not feel the slightest pain in childbirth.
Why did they do it? Because that's the reality of childbirth is known by women in the area. They did not feel scared because it was never intimidated. While generally the modern woman of small already "scared" that delivery was very painful. Almost all the women of today must have heard about it from parents, family, friends, television or other information media. And because so many people say that giving birth is painful, without conscious women of today believe that they will feel pain when giving birth. The result they become frightened and tense during labor.
Fear, anxiety and tension during labor could be eliminated with hypnosis. In addition, hypnosis can also bring a proven mental anesthetic can relieve pain without drugs. Actually, mental anesthesia techniques can be applied in many fields of medicine such as surgery for small / large without chemical anesthesia, eliminating chronic pain, tooth extraction, and so on. Within 8 hours of training, we only focus Hypnotic discuss birthing and Circumcision Without Pain as additional material.
What is the difference between Hypnotherapy and Stage Hypnosis?Although both use hypnosis as a means, hypnotherapy is very different from stage hypnosis (hypnosis to show or a game like that you see on TV). In stage hypnosis hypnotized subjects for humorous given temporary command, for example, subjects instructed not get up from my seat, forgot his own name, hallucinations, seeing something that really does not exist and such.While in hypnotherapy, clients aim is to solve problems or improve their own capabilities, which result from hypnotherapy is expected to last for ever. Thus the techniques used were different. In hypnotherapy you can not just sit quietly and listen to suggestions from the hypnotherapist. When hypnotherapy takes place, your mind will be consulted to resolve the problem you are facing. Hypnotherapy is not the same as stage hypnosis that are just giving orders and hypnotist look overbearing. In hypnotherapy, the client and hypnotherapist work together to achieve goals.Hypnotherapy we did not do anything for you so desire sesesuai hypnotherapist, but so that you can achieve your own desires. You will not be made unconscious or helpless, but you will be guided so that you can realize your own strengths so that you are experiencing problems you can solve yourself by using the wisdom and power of your Subconscious Mind. 
hypnotherapy in laborMany people assume that all those who give birth will experience excruciating pain that many expectant mothers are worried about this natural process. They fear will experience tremendous pain. Childbirth is a natural process and cause pain. But many women who feel the pain is more severe than it should because it is heavily influenced by a sense of panic and stress. It is called fear-tension-pain concept (fear-tension-pain), which cause fear or panic that led to tension the muscles become stiff and eventually cause pain.All pain is basically because of fear that is felt too deeply, causing prolonged stress during childbirth before. It's a matter of psychology which should be anticipated during pregnancy with carefully prepared both physically and mentally in order to really be ready to undergo the process of childbirth. Here our conscious mind of the role will arise whether or not the pain of childbirth. Imagine a beautiful-beautiful that childbirth is a natural process that is fun and all women must have felt. It will help relax your mind so as not to stress your brain.There are also a number of women who gave birth to normal, but still using an epidural anesthetic for pain. The use of such anesthetics used more and more lately. But does all this really necessary?Imagine a process of giving birth with minimal pain or no feeling at all. It's not something that is not possible if we had practiced hypnobirthing relaxation. Hypnobirthing relaxation is a natural method used to eliminate the fear, panic, tension and other stresses that haunts mothers in labor.dr. Boy Abidin, SpOG, Obstetrics & Gynecology Specialist Hospital Partners Family said the Ivory Palm pregnancy relaxation will help pregnant women to achieve conditions that always relaxed and calm, where the effects of this condition will affect pregnant women and the environment through the delivery process.With a relaxed state, brain waves will become more quiet so it can accept new input which will then cause a positive reaction on the body, and it is possible that the mother's body will follow the intended new input. So if pregnant women have been doing relaxation and intended it to be smooth birth, not sick, healthy, and so forth, it is entirely possible if the birth will be in accordance with these intentions.Relaxation methods in carrying the pregnancy is actually not a new method, but has been used since the 50's in the United States. Only lately, a lot of names that appear and serve as a new trademark for this pregnancy relaxation methods such as hypnobirthing, HypnoBabies, HypnoBirth and so on.Such relaxation techniques can help in reducing pain and emotional distress during the birth process without the need to use drugs.All the new name using the basic word hypnosis, it does not mean pregnant women will fall asleep or unconscious when the practice itself. But hypnosis is used planting methods of suggestion when the brain has been in a relaxed condition.Hypnobirthing is one of the best known trademarks today, under the auspices of the Hypnobirthing Institute, USA. Vanguard is one figure who spread the relaxation method of pregnancy, which is a hypnotherapist from the United States named Marie F. Mongan.In Indonesia, this method began to be widely disseminated in 2003 by Lanny Kuswandi, who studied the Marie Mongan method of hypnobirthing in Australia. He was a midwife who then explore the science of hypnotherapy in the field of pregnancy-specific.Childbirth is a very complex process, need mental readiness and enthusiasm, serenity and a strong conviction to be able to give birth naturally in addition to the requirements for medically normal birth process has met all. Here is hypnobirthing played a major role, helping to provide mental readiness and confidence to give birth naturally with minimal pain. With our ability to do hypnobirthing will affect our subconscious mind, as far as possible the pain of losing our brain, replace it with the feeling that the delivery was not sick, that is giving birth is something very beautiful that only women can be felt.

The benefits of hypnotherapy
 
1.eliminating the trauma
2.eliminating phobias
3.eliminate insomnia
4.eliminating inferior
5.Eliminating pain


Hypnotherapy Hypnosis is slowly have demonstrated its existence along with the increasing acceptance in the medical world. Hypnosis is widely used in the field such as medication and exercise to change the mechanism of the human brain in interpret experience and generate a change in perception and behavior. The application of hypnosis for the purpose of improvement (therapeutic) is known as hypnotherapy.Hipnotherapi has been shown to have various uses to solve various problems related to emotion and behavior. Even some serious medical cases such as cancer and heart attacks, hipnotherapi accelerate the recovery condition of a patient. It is very possible because hipnotherapi directed to enhance the immune system and reprogram the individual's attitude toward her illness.Hypnosis is very useful in overcoming the various cases relating to anxiety, tension, depression, phobias and can help to eliminate bad habits such as dependence on tobacco, alcohol and drugs. By giving suggestion, one therapist can build a positive emotional state with regard to being a non-smoker and a rejection of taste or smell of cigarettes.Especially for phobias, hypnotherapy is used to reduce the anxiety that takes over control of the individual against himself. This can be achieved by creating a vivid description of conditions that lead to phobias, but the individual remains in a relaxed condition, thus helping them to re-adjust their reactions to the conditions that cause the phobia to be normal and the response is more calm.Hypnotherapy can be used to bring people back into the past or past life regression to treat trauma by providing an opportunity to change the "focus" of attention. Hypnotherapist in Indonesia one of the expert in this field is Nathalia Sunaidi C. Ht, author of Journey to My Past Lives. Past life regression is still much debated, especially by people who do not believe in the existence of reincarnation.Hypnotherapy can also be used to improve the optimality of learning. Associated with learning, hypnotherapy can be applied to improve memory, creativity, focus, break through walls mental limitations (self-limiting mental block) and others. More in-depth review of hypnotherapy in learning can refer to the Total-Mind book series Learning.Hypnotherapy will be more powerful if combined with a more optimal media other therapies, such as NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), EFT (Emotional Freedom Therapy) and others.Examples of successful therapy in hypnotherapy who use NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), is a therapy / hypnotherapy Stuttering speak both in Indonesian and English, which has been held on a Stuttering Hypnotherapy Clinic in Bandung, which is also menterapi public speaking trauma patients. Patients hypnotherapy Stuttering is usually enough to come 1x 4-5.5jam already showed a significant recovery.

Stages of hypnotherapy1. Interview.Stage of this interview is an early stage before doing hypnotherapy. Interview aims to foster intimacy between the therapist with the client. So the therapist can understand client problems, determine the goals of therapy. A therapist will also inform the procedure was going to do hypnotherapy. The most important in the process of hypnotherapy is a client must honestly say all the things that became unek - unek and what is the desire for hypnotherapy process is running smoothly.2. InductionThe second stage is the induction which is the way used by therapists to guide clients toward the hypnotic condition. The main requirement goes hypnotherapy is no element of coercion from the therapist to the client. A client must give up ourselves to in hypnosis in order to get well wishes can be realized.3. DeepeningThis deepening is a continuation of the induction. This hypnosis technique is a way to deepen the level of hypnosis. While the level of hypnosis is divided into several sections. Among them is a light trance, trance medium, deep trance, or somnambulism. While the level of the most ideal for hypnotherapy at the level of somnambulism.4. Mind Therapy.After passing through the stages of deepening and at the level of somnambulism. Hypnotherapy clients will be given suggestions are designed in such a way as to form the word hypnosis, hypnosis or hypnotic language sentences. Giving suggestions of the therapist to clients who used hypnotherapy course with digging the root problem which will be neutralized. Of course the root of this problem is known by the therapist at the interview stage. In providing hypnotic suggestion techniques are also performed. For the provision of direct suggestion direct or suggestion is very effective and can make the clients get a very big change. And hypnotic techniques are often used for beginners hypnotherapy. But if the direct suggestion techniques are still not getting the client to change, it would require special techniques such as Age Regression hypnosis, Time Line Therapy, Hypoanalysis, Forgiveness Therapy, Chair Therapy, and others - others.5. Termination.Termination of this stage is the last stage of hypnotherapy. Termination of this stage is the process of waking hypnotherapy clients. Usually when clients woke up and began to open his eyes, looked cheerful smile and eyes that sparkled.